Lula's Love Day (happy birthday grandma) arrived on (December 16)! I miss my granny! She was a living legend to me! She taught me so many things.
Be A Grandmother
Pictures twisted in the best memories with hugs and lots of love, will always = my grandma Lula. I have a passion for sewing because of Ms. Lula. She taught me how to sew at the age of 5. Every time I sew something, I think about my grandma. I am proud that my grandmother spent time with me to teach me how to do it. It was such an honor to be around a woman like her. My best family time was during the holidays with Ms. Lula; especially as a child. She made sure all of her grandchildren were together at her house, with her on the holidays. Those paramount moments are what I will always cherish. Memories are all God gives us. Spend time with your grandchildren. Learn how to be a grandmother. It is never too late to start, if you’ve been absent. My grandmother loved spending time with us. She also did not like us spending the night over other people’s house. She’d prefer us at her house. I totally understand that now. I can honestly say Ms. Lula helped to raise all of her grandchildren.
Don’t Be A Follower
Ms. Lula was clothed in the sagacity of wise counsel. You do know that some people are rocking senior status with no wisdom at all. My grandmother taught us to be our best original selves. Create something of your own! Invent and give life to something! Start something! My grandmother had a “you can do it” spirit and attitude, fully loaded in inspiration to let you know it was possible. She also warned us about hanging around the wrong type of crowd. If you brought friends around her and she discerned something about them, she would tell us to stop hanging out with them. Ms. Lula was always right. It was up to us to take heed.
Feed Everybody
I’ve been surrounded by pounds of love my entire life. I am blessed to have a big family. You are too! Some people have no family, so remember that. Ms. Lula had 13 kids. She always had more than enough food cooking in her kitchen, in light of having so many grandchildren. There was always heavy traffic in her house. I remember when I was a young teenager; one of my uncles came over my grandmother’s house with his girlfriend and some of his male friends. My grandmother told me to fix them all a plate of food. I was like huh? I was thinking my uncle was old enough to fix all of his friends’ plates. Why did I have to do it?Ms. Lula always preferred that the women serve the food to the men. I washed my hands and fixed all of their plates. My grandmother always fed anyone who was hungry in her neighborhood. She taught us to share our food. She also didn’t like us wasting any food either. Whatever she cooked, we ate! There were no options.
Get The Dirt Out of Your Eyes First
My grandma was telling me a story about a woman who was always looking out of her window. Each time she looked out of her window she said her neighbor’s house was filthy. She was telling all the other neighbors about the lady having such a nasty porch and house. One day someone came over to the woman's house and told her there was nothing wrong with her neighbor’s house. They said her windows were dirty so when she was looking out of it, the dirt she saw was in her own eyes, not her neighbor’s house. I was cracking up laughing when my grandmother told me that story. She was such an animated storyteller. Get that dirt out of your own eyes before you go trying to seek out the dirt in another person's life.
Have A Clean Heart
Ms. Lula always said God looks at your heart to see what is in it. Are you plotting evil against another? Are you holding some cryptic jealousy? Are you thinking you are better than others? What’s in your heart? Your outer appearance means nothing to God. Is your heart clean? Do you treat people right? My grandmother always said treat people the way you want to be treated. I am sure some of you have heard it before. Think about it first and ask yourself how you would feel if it was you or your family member. Right, exactly, maybe you should not do it!
Laugh Have Some Fun
Whenever you hung around in the presence of Ms. Lula, you surely would be confronted with some laughter. My grandmother loved talking about folks; telling jokes. Today the young people call it “being treated.” She was hilarious! Frowns were turned into rainbow stained smiles when you were around Ms. Lula. She could have been a comedian. My grandmother was always smiling and laughing.
Learn Something From Others
My grandma taught us to always be cooperative in learning something from others. You don’t know it all! Sorry to break it down to you. There are some new recipes you can afford to learn. There are some parental tips you can welcome. There is nothing wrong with learning how to do something better, more efficient, to be great at it! I just recently learned that most spiders have at least 6 to 8 eyes but they can’t see very well. A child explained that to me.
Love Again and Again
Try your best to allow love to snuggle up close in your heart and mind so that you can forgive and bless yourself forward. My grandmother used to always tell me how people did her wrong over the years. She said she had to forgive them despite the wrong they did to her. Yes, sometimes it is going to take time. It can be quick or long. It depends on the situation and on you. Ask God to help heal your heart so you can bless yourself forward! Love again and again.
Out With The Youth
Ms. Lula loved being around people. If she knew about an event or something going on, she would always ask for someone in the family to come and pick her up. She wanted to go too. What preserved my grandmother in her spunkiness and vibrant persona, was her interest in hanging out with people who were younger than her (30 and 40). She enjoyed playing cards and bingo. Sometimes she hung out all night long with them playing card games; even at the age of 80! It kept her spirit alive! They all loved Ms. Lula. They also knew she had a huge protective family. Sometimes God places you in different episodes in your life so you can share your experience with others.
Please Be Nosy
All the turbulence having its way in the world today is disheartening. If Ms. Lula lived next door to you, I promise you your block would be peaceful and crime free. Your kids would say yes ma’am and no sir! My grandmother was so nosy. She knew everything about everybody. I was going to say she was a tie between the FBI and the CIA but they didn’t have anything on Ms. Lula. It’s okay to be a little nosy! You should know what is going on in your house with your kids. You should know what is going on in your community. Be Ye Nosy!
Pray Talk To God
God gave my grandmother spiritual gifts for her purpose and she did use them. Ms. Lula did not attend church every Sunday. She made sure her children were in church as much as possible. She taught us how to pray and encouraged us to talk to God. You do not have to be in church to have a relationship with God. It is good to dwell among the saints for strength and empowerment as believers. It is all about your relationship with God. Teaching your kids how to pray and have a personal relationship with God helps to cope with life better. The door is always open for you to get closer to God. Anytime you add prayer and God in your bloodline it is rich!
Raise Your Own Kids
Ms. Lula was a stringent advocate towards men and women to raise their own kids. Spend time with your kids and teach them. Train them! She often said “you’ve made your bed, now lie in it” to all parents who crossed her path; of course to her own kids. I distinctively remember my grandma always saying those words often. I didn’t know what it meant when I was a little girl. As I grew into a Sancti-Fly Mama, I understood she only meant taking responsibility for your actions. Ms. Lula taught us (our family) to be accountable for the children we bring into the world. She said too many folks allow their children to be raised by everyone else but themselves. When you have kids it is not about you at all! Not anymore; first is no longer your thirst! You are the protector, the advisor and the example.
Read! Learn! Educate Yourself!
Ms. Lula was a motivational speaker when it came to education. She always taught us to soar high, believe in our self and to never stop learning. If you told her what you wanted to be or do in life, she would say “go head baby, you can do it” because she grew up in an era where she was not afforded the same opportunities we have today. She always believed in having a plan and setting goals. She loved to read. She read the Sunday paper; which lasted the entire week. She read every article. She said it was never too late to read, learn and educate yourself.
Respect
Ms. Lula always told us we were valuable. She told us to have respect for ourselves. I used to always walk to the store from my house to my Lula's house as a child. It was in proximity. I would see and hear adult men and women in the community saying "hey little Lula; that’s Ms. Lula's grand-baby," to me. I would see some of them standing on the corner drinking or just hanging out in the front of their houses. My grandmother’s name was well respected because she had a good reputation. She respected others. Have some respect for yourself. Everyone knew Ms. Lula.
Some Common Sense
Have you ever heard of people saying a person is set in their ways? My grandmother was definitely set in her ways. That means when they get older you cannot try to persuade them or change them. It will not work. My grandmother always said folks don’t have the decent sense God gave them. She was so funny! She talked so bad about us as a society. I can’t even repeat some of the things she articulated to me. She used to say she never heard of some of these mothers leaving their babies in the car by themselves when she was coming up, then surprised when they go to jail for it.
Stand Up for Yourself
Ms. Lula was certainly a woman and mother who stood up for herself. She made sure her courage was threaded in all of her bloodline. I confess, it is fully stitched in the Sancti-Fly Mama! My grandmother was a Sancti-Fly Soldier! All 6 of her sons were taller than her but that didn’t mean anything. When they tried to test her they always lost the battle. Don’t allow people to control you, bully you or make you feel unimportant. My grandmother did not bite her tongue for no one; meaning, she said what she wanted to say whether you liked it or not. At times, people will try to be nasty with you. Surprise them and speak up for yourself. You will swimmingly shut them down. Don’t react to their foolishness. Stand up for yourself!
Be A Grandmother
Pictures twisted in the best memories with hugs and lots of love, will always = my grandma Lula. I have a passion for sewing because of Ms. Lula. She taught me how to sew at the age of 5. Every time I sew something, I think about my grandma. I am proud that my grandmother spent time with me to teach me how to do it. It was such an honor to be around a woman like her. My best family time was during the holidays with Ms. Lula; especially as a child. She made sure all of her grandchildren were together at her house, with her on the holidays. Those paramount moments are what I will always cherish. Memories are all God gives us. Spend time with your grandchildren. Learn how to be a grandmother. It is never too late to start, if you’ve been absent. My grandmother loved spending time with us. She also did not like us spending the night over other people’s house. She’d prefer us at her house. I totally understand that now. I can honestly say Ms. Lula helped to raise all of her grandchildren.
Don’t Be A Follower
Ms. Lula was clothed in the sagacity of wise counsel. You do know that some people are rocking senior status with no wisdom at all. My grandmother taught us to be our best original selves. Create something of your own! Invent and give life to something! Start something! My grandmother had a “you can do it” spirit and attitude, fully loaded in inspiration to let you know it was possible. She also warned us about hanging around the wrong type of crowd. If you brought friends around her and she discerned something about them, she would tell us to stop hanging out with them. Ms. Lula was always right. It was up to us to take heed.
Feed Everybody
I’ve been surrounded by pounds of love my entire life. I am blessed to have a big family. You are too! Some people have no family, so remember that. Ms. Lula had 13 kids. She always had more than enough food cooking in her kitchen, in light of having so many grandchildren. There was always heavy traffic in her house. I remember when I was a young teenager; one of my uncles came over my grandmother’s house with his girlfriend and some of his male friends. My grandmother told me to fix them all a plate of food. I was like huh? I was thinking my uncle was old enough to fix all of his friends’ plates. Why did I have to do it?Ms. Lula always preferred that the women serve the food to the men. I washed my hands and fixed all of their plates. My grandmother always fed anyone who was hungry in her neighborhood. She taught us to share our food. She also didn’t like us wasting any food either. Whatever she cooked, we ate! There were no options.
Get The Dirt Out of Your Eyes First
My grandma was telling me a story about a woman who was always looking out of her window. Each time she looked out of her window she said her neighbor’s house was filthy. She was telling all the other neighbors about the lady having such a nasty porch and house. One day someone came over to the woman's house and told her there was nothing wrong with her neighbor’s house. They said her windows were dirty so when she was looking out of it, the dirt she saw was in her own eyes, not her neighbor’s house. I was cracking up laughing when my grandmother told me that story. She was such an animated storyteller. Get that dirt out of your own eyes before you go trying to seek out the dirt in another person's life.
Have A Clean Heart
Ms. Lula always said God looks at your heart to see what is in it. Are you plotting evil against another? Are you holding some cryptic jealousy? Are you thinking you are better than others? What’s in your heart? Your outer appearance means nothing to God. Is your heart clean? Do you treat people right? My grandmother always said treat people the way you want to be treated. I am sure some of you have heard it before. Think about it first and ask yourself how you would feel if it was you or your family member. Right, exactly, maybe you should not do it!
Laugh Have Some Fun
Whenever you hung around in the presence of Ms. Lula, you surely would be confronted with some laughter. My grandmother loved talking about folks; telling jokes. Today the young people call it “being treated.” She was hilarious! Frowns were turned into rainbow stained smiles when you were around Ms. Lula. She could have been a comedian. My grandmother was always smiling and laughing.
Learn Something From Others
My grandma taught us to always be cooperative in learning something from others. You don’t know it all! Sorry to break it down to you. There are some new recipes you can afford to learn. There are some parental tips you can welcome. There is nothing wrong with learning how to do something better, more efficient, to be great at it! I just recently learned that most spiders have at least 6 to 8 eyes but they can’t see very well. A child explained that to me.
Love Again and Again
Try your best to allow love to snuggle up close in your heart and mind so that you can forgive and bless yourself forward. My grandmother used to always tell me how people did her wrong over the years. She said she had to forgive them despite the wrong they did to her. Yes, sometimes it is going to take time. It can be quick or long. It depends on the situation and on you. Ask God to help heal your heart so you can bless yourself forward! Love again and again.
Out With The Youth
Ms. Lula loved being around people. If she knew about an event or something going on, she would always ask for someone in the family to come and pick her up. She wanted to go too. What preserved my grandmother in her spunkiness and vibrant persona, was her interest in hanging out with people who were younger than her (30 and 40). She enjoyed playing cards and bingo. Sometimes she hung out all night long with them playing card games; even at the age of 80! It kept her spirit alive! They all loved Ms. Lula. They also knew she had a huge protective family. Sometimes God places you in different episodes in your life so you can share your experience with others.
Please Be Nosy
All the turbulence having its way in the world today is disheartening. If Ms. Lula lived next door to you, I promise you your block would be peaceful and crime free. Your kids would say yes ma’am and no sir! My grandmother was so nosy. She knew everything about everybody. I was going to say she was a tie between the FBI and the CIA but they didn’t have anything on Ms. Lula. It’s okay to be a little nosy! You should know what is going on in your house with your kids. You should know what is going on in your community. Be Ye Nosy!
Pray Talk To God
God gave my grandmother spiritual gifts for her purpose and she did use them. Ms. Lula did not attend church every Sunday. She made sure her children were in church as much as possible. She taught us how to pray and encouraged us to talk to God. You do not have to be in church to have a relationship with God. It is good to dwell among the saints for strength and empowerment as believers. It is all about your relationship with God. Teaching your kids how to pray and have a personal relationship with God helps to cope with life better. The door is always open for you to get closer to God. Anytime you add prayer and God in your bloodline it is rich!
Raise Your Own Kids
Ms. Lula was a stringent advocate towards men and women to raise their own kids. Spend time with your kids and teach them. Train them! She often said “you’ve made your bed, now lie in it” to all parents who crossed her path; of course to her own kids. I distinctively remember my grandma always saying those words often. I didn’t know what it meant when I was a little girl. As I grew into a Sancti-Fly Mama, I understood she only meant taking responsibility for your actions. Ms. Lula taught us (our family) to be accountable for the children we bring into the world. She said too many folks allow their children to be raised by everyone else but themselves. When you have kids it is not about you at all! Not anymore; first is no longer your thirst! You are the protector, the advisor and the example.
Read! Learn! Educate Yourself!
Ms. Lula was a motivational speaker when it came to education. She always taught us to soar high, believe in our self and to never stop learning. If you told her what you wanted to be or do in life, she would say “go head baby, you can do it” because she grew up in an era where she was not afforded the same opportunities we have today. She always believed in having a plan and setting goals. She loved to read. She read the Sunday paper; which lasted the entire week. She read every article. She said it was never too late to read, learn and educate yourself.
Respect
Ms. Lula always told us we were valuable. She told us to have respect for ourselves. I used to always walk to the store from my house to my Lula's house as a child. It was in proximity. I would see and hear adult men and women in the community saying "hey little Lula; that’s Ms. Lula's grand-baby," to me. I would see some of them standing on the corner drinking or just hanging out in the front of their houses. My grandmother’s name was well respected because she had a good reputation. She respected others. Have some respect for yourself. Everyone knew Ms. Lula.
Some Common Sense
Have you ever heard of people saying a person is set in their ways? My grandmother was definitely set in her ways. That means when they get older you cannot try to persuade them or change them. It will not work. My grandmother always said folks don’t have the decent sense God gave them. She was so funny! She talked so bad about us as a society. I can’t even repeat some of the things she articulated to me. She used to say she never heard of some of these mothers leaving their babies in the car by themselves when she was coming up, then surprised when they go to jail for it.
Stand Up for Yourself
Ms. Lula was certainly a woman and mother who stood up for herself. She made sure her courage was threaded in all of her bloodline. I confess, it is fully stitched in the Sancti-Fly Mama! My grandmother was a Sancti-Fly Soldier! All 6 of her sons were taller than her but that didn’t mean anything. When they tried to test her they always lost the battle. Don’t allow people to control you, bully you or make you feel unimportant. My grandmother did not bite her tongue for no one; meaning, she said what she wanted to say whether you liked it or not. At times, people will try to be nasty with you. Surprise them and speak up for yourself. You will swimmingly shut them down. Don’t react to their foolishness. Stand up for yourself!
