Dear Black People, (Hey)
"Don't expect your woman, girlfriend or wife to be feminine if you expect her to do masculine things."
"Don't expect your woman, girlfriend or wife to be feminine if you expect her to do masculine things."
This message is definitely universal for all persons. I wanted to highlight all the important reasons why this is encouraged in melanated communities such as mines. When you try your best to raise your young boys into the men they will become, everything is absolutely right about instilling some gentlemen qualities in them. We do have gentlemen in our community who don't mine displaying the chivalry they were raised in. I hope those images can be flaunted more. What is so wrong with having good manners? This brother in this TikTok public service announcement speaks about things women should not have to do if they are in a relationship, married, or dating a man. I understand the complex situations ladies and women do have with longing for this kind of treatment. There are so many layers to what this man is saying and why it isn't happening. I totally agree with him 1000%. I was recently having a conversation about this same topic. He tells us five things that are favorable to women from a man's support. You have to read the interesting comments in this video if you can.
Men Should Pump That Gas Fellas
I get it, some men aren't taught how to be a man and do these things. Should they get a pass? I say yes but I know some folks are quick to say No! I have beautiful black men (that win) in my life who didn't have their dads or a lot of men in their family to teach them, but it didn't stop them from wanting to learn how to be and do better. Try to seek out some male mentors for the young men you are raising if you have no men to help you with your boys. They are out there. All men are different and don't share the same experience. If you have young men you are raising, please stay on them and teach them. If you are dating a man and he isn't doing this, tell him that you would like for him to get out and pump your gas. If you are in a serious relationship or married this should be discussed early in your partnership. Some men do know this, but they are lazy. Some men get relaxed and forget. Remind them because a man can and really should be pumping your gas. I see a lot of young boys pumping gas for their moms and it just warms my heart. If you are in the car with a female, you should be pumping the gas whether it is your family member, friend, or your sweet cakes (😂 lol). I love mushy names!
Take Out The Garbage
Granted, there are so many women who are single and have no choice but to take out their own garbage. Again, I say, if you are a male family member, just a male friend and have women in your life that need you to take out their garbage, please take out their garbage. When you are over their house just ask. Even if they decline your nice gesture, at least you offered to help. These are the men we need more of. It really is the little things in life. This man in this video said if you are in a love relationship with a woman, you really are encouraged to take out her garbage especially if you live together or you're over her house visiting. It will make your wife or partner feel so good.
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Worrying About Maintenance on Her Vehicle
Wow! According to this King-Papa, if you are in a relationship with a woman, you should be making sure the maintenance on her car is in good health weekly. I want to know how many men are doing this for their women. Some women that are single have to check their own fluids and other maintenance of their cars. It is unfortunate that this is normalized for a lot of women. Women aren't going to wait for their cousins, uncles, nephews, or fathers to help out if they don't want to help out. They will figure it out and get the job done themselves. It really is a part of life because everyone is not in relationships with men.
Open Car Doors Please (Thank You)
What is the big fuss about a man opening doors for his lady or any women? We have to teach our boys and young men this. There are some women who really do not require men to open doors for them but most like the chivalry. Don't take what you have for granted, fellas. Be a gentleman always. If he isn't opening up your doors and you would like him to, whisper sweetly in his ear and remind him how you like it. Tell him. Communicate how you feel about it. If he loves you, he will start being more intentional and not complacent. He'll do it. I like how the man in this video states how he opens the door for his lady and grabs her hand to help her out of the car, especially when the weather is bad, and she has on heels. That is like, everything! Step up your chivalry game men. The time is now.
Cutting Grass and Shoveling Snow
In a perfect world, this gentleman says women that belong to you should never have to touch a lawnmower, a leaf blower, or shovel snow if she is married, in a serious relationship with a man, or just dating a man. In reality we know women have to do these things. I hope and pray as a community we can promote this to our men so more can start doing these things. If you are doing it great. Keep on moving strong. If you're not doing it or raising your sons to do these things, why not think about putting these ingredients in them.
Men Should Pump That Gas Fellas
I get it, some men aren't taught how to be a man and do these things. Should they get a pass? I say yes but I know some folks are quick to say No! I have beautiful black men (that win) in my life who didn't have their dads or a lot of men in their family to teach them, but it didn't stop them from wanting to learn how to be and do better. Try to seek out some male mentors for the young men you are raising if you have no men to help you with your boys. They are out there. All men are different and don't share the same experience. If you have young men you are raising, please stay on them and teach them. If you are dating a man and he isn't doing this, tell him that you would like for him to get out and pump your gas. If you are in a serious relationship or married this should be discussed early in your partnership. Some men do know this, but they are lazy. Some men get relaxed and forget. Remind them because a man can and really should be pumping your gas. I see a lot of young boys pumping gas for their moms and it just warms my heart. If you are in the car with a female, you should be pumping the gas whether it is your family member, friend, or your sweet cakes (😂 lol). I love mushy names!
Take Out The Garbage
Granted, there are so many women who are single and have no choice but to take out their own garbage. Again, I say, if you are a male family member, just a male friend and have women in your life that need you to take out their garbage, please take out their garbage. When you are over their house just ask. Even if they decline your nice gesture, at least you offered to help. These are the men we need more of. It really is the little things in life. This man in this video said if you are in a love relationship with a woman, you really are encouraged to take out her garbage especially if you live together or you're over her house visiting. It will make your wife or partner feel so good.
.
Worrying About Maintenance on Her Vehicle
Wow! According to this King-Papa, if you are in a relationship with a woman, you should be making sure the maintenance on her car is in good health weekly. I want to know how many men are doing this for their women. Some women that are single have to check their own fluids and other maintenance of their cars. It is unfortunate that this is normalized for a lot of women. Women aren't going to wait for their cousins, uncles, nephews, or fathers to help out if they don't want to help out. They will figure it out and get the job done themselves. It really is a part of life because everyone is not in relationships with men.
Open Car Doors Please (Thank You)
What is the big fuss about a man opening doors for his lady or any women? We have to teach our boys and young men this. There are some women who really do not require men to open doors for them but most like the chivalry. Don't take what you have for granted, fellas. Be a gentleman always. If he isn't opening up your doors and you would like him to, whisper sweetly in his ear and remind him how you like it. Tell him. Communicate how you feel about it. If he loves you, he will start being more intentional and not complacent. He'll do it. I like how the man in this video states how he opens the door for his lady and grabs her hand to help her out of the car, especially when the weather is bad, and she has on heels. That is like, everything! Step up your chivalry game men. The time is now.
Cutting Grass and Shoveling Snow
In a perfect world, this gentleman says women that belong to you should never have to touch a lawnmower, a leaf blower, or shovel snow if she is married, in a serious relationship with a man, or just dating a man. In reality we know women have to do these things. I hope and pray as a community we can promote this to our men so more can start doing these things. If you are doing it great. Keep on moving strong. If you're not doing it or raising your sons to do these things, why not think about putting these ingredients in them.
